Relationship and Divorce

If you have questions about relationship or divorce, you have come to the right place at RenS.

The choice has been made to separate, or perhaps you have been separated for some time, but there are questions. For example, "How do we tell the children?", "How do we arrange the money matters?", "What practical arrangements do we make with each other? Or maybe just, "Where do we start? 

We as an expert team RenS can help you with these questions. Contact us at rens@opsterland.nl or 0512-386222 (on weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m.) or get in touch via the contact form. Help is free and commits you to nothing. 

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Meet RenS

For children

Your parents have decided to split up. We can imagine that you have many questions. Please contact our Relationship and Divorce team. We can listen to you and think along with you, so that you get clarity in all your questions. 

It can be nice to talk to someone who has been through the same thing and is also young. Villa Pinedo has buddies who can help with this. 

Contact a peer 

The Mat Game 

It can be difficult for children to express themselves about how they are experiencing divorce. RenS has counselors who are trained to play the Mattens Game. In a short period of time, the Mattens Game offers great insight into how a child, young person or parent is experiencing the situation. It can be used from an early age (3 years and up). It lets someone talk about his living situation in a playful way. This is based on the knowledge and experience that talking while playing and moving offers a good entrance for children and for youngsters/adults brings awareness and processing. With these insights we can then see what is needed to improve the situation.

For parents

Is the communication between you and your (ex) partner completely disturbed and do you want to learn to communicate with each other again in a respectful way? Or learn how to continue as partners in parenthood after a divorce. Together we look at whether a SCHIP program suits you. We can offer this free of charge. For more information about the program visit www.schipaanpak.nl.

Money Matters

Divorce also often raises questions about money matters. For example, about selling the house, how about renting a house and what if income drops? But also the right to benefits, allowances or alimony. For these and all other questions about money matters, a debt relief worker can look and think along with you. Free and without obligation.

For stakeholders 

Your best friends have decided to break up or your child has gone through a divorce. This causes grief and can cause there to be two camps. You may be wondering how to properly assist your friend/child/neighbor without losing yourself in a power struggle or how best to help them. We, at RenS, would love to get in touch with you to think with you about how best to position yourself and offer help.  

If you want tips on how to deal with this now, click on the link below. 

10 tips for positive support 

For professionals 

Are you a professional involved in a divorce or divorce in the municipality of Opsterland and in need of a sparring partner? Contact RenS and we will be happy to think with you! We have expertise on what works in contact. We also have insight into which parties can possibly be involved or we can offer to enter into conversation with the (ex) partners from RenS.   

Who we are

We are the Relationship and Divorce Expertise Team (RenS) of the municipality of Opsterland. We all work at the area team of Opsterland. 

Team relationship and divorce
Ruth van Bekkum:youth consultant
Anita Comello: youth and aid consultant 
Chris Brammer: youth consultant 
Gertjan Jansen: counselor assistance  
Arjan Boven:early signaler of money worries/debt service provider 
Dorinthe Fennis: behavioral scientist 

Contact

Contact us at: 

We can be reached between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. on weekdays.

Where else can I go for information?

Below are helpful websites with more information.

Divorce in Friesland

On this website you will find accurate and concise information about divorce in one place. The information is for parents, ex-partners, children, professionals and stakeholders. For additional information we sometimes refer to other (Frisian) organizations and agencies. 

Apart

Step by step divorce with guidance or very quickly. Everything is possible at Uitelkaar.nl. On the online divorce platform you create a parenting plan, divorce plan, with or without mediation. Every situation is unique, so you decide what you need and pay only for that. No more no less. 

Breaking up with children

This website is designed to help parents navigate the difficult process of divorce. The emphasis is on making the divorce as smooth as possible for both parents and children. The goal is to minimize the damage after the divorce. 

Divorce or separation checklist

Information and advice on arranging financial matters during/after a divorce. 

Experiences by and for children

Sharing experiences and information by and for children about divorce 

Meetings for parents

Information sessions and meetings for parents and professionals. About what divorce or growing up safe means for children. About how to offer support to a child. 

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Still have questions?

If so, please contact the Area Team

Municipality of Opsterland