Neighborhood Mediation
Is there a problem with the neighbors and you want to do something about it, because you want to live pleasantly? How do you address that?
Not getting along with your neighbors? Then turn to neighborhood mediation.
If you and your neighbors cannot work things out, you can call in a neighborhood mediator. He/she is impartial, thinks with you and tries to find a solution. Neighborhood mediation is free of charge. Go to:
That's easy talk!
1 in 4 Dutch people are sometimes annoyed by their neighbors. These are often minor irritations that can lead to major annoyances in the long run.
How do you prevent that from happening? Talking about it together is not always easy. Yet you can do something about it yourself. Go to:
Engage with each other
To avoid arguments, it is important to keep talking to each other. If you are very angry, it is better to wait until you have cooled down.
Before you start talking, you can prepare yourself. For example, write down the following points:
- Think about what really bothers you. Try to stick to two things.
- What do you think the neighbors think about this?
- Have you done anything yourself to fix it?
- What would you suggest to the neighbors?
Then ring the neighbor's doorbell, tell them you want to talk and find a time that is convenient for both of you.
An example: 'Hi neighbor, I would like to discuss something with you. When is that possible? Have you found a time? Always keep the conversation calm and friendly.
Tell calmly and briefly what bothers you. Ask the neighbor what they think about it and listen to the answer. What do they think about it? Are they bothered by you, too? Sometimes you are not aware of it at all. Talk about it. Can you come up with a solution together?
What are solutions? Can you reach agreements?
An appointment incorporates the interests of two people. Example: It may be that it is important to the neighbors that they can listen to music, while it is important to you that the children can sleep. Perhaps you can test together at what volume the music can be heard through the wall. And at what volume just barely. Or agree on a time when the music stops.
Make agreements with each other and Health that you keep talking to each other, even if you don't manage to find a solution right away.
